The Real Santa Claus and a Homeless Jesus

Old Saint Nick

As I read this reflection on St. Nick in the Common Prayer liturgy the other day, I was stirred at the contrast between the selfless generosity of this saint and the consumerist wish lists we now associate to the modern Santa Claus.

While, there is almost no chance Jesus was born in December and Christmas as a holiday didn’t exist for the first 300+ years after Jesus birth, it is still a holiday worth celebrating.  Let’s just celebrate it in a way that would do the homeless Jesus and the selfless St. Nick honor.

 In their eyes, less is much, much more.

“The original “old Saint Nick” who inspired the tradition of Santa Claus, Nicholas was bishop of Myra in fourth century Turkey. Little is known about his life except that he entrusted himself to Jesus at an early age and, when his parents died, gave all of their possessions to the poor. While serving as bishop, Nicholas learned of three girls who were going to be sold into slavery by their father. Moved to use the church’s wealth to ransom the lives of these little ones, he tossed three bags of gold through the family’s window. We remember this ancient Christmas gift, even as we remember that 1.2 million children are trafficked each year in the global sex trade today.”

Source: http://commonprayer.net/

Stories Behind Our Gifts (Re-Posted)

This is a post I wrote last year around this time.  It seems quite timely on the eve of Black Friday.

This is a great season to allow our values to be reflected in the way we spend our money.  It is so important for those of us who have endless products at our disposal to remember the stories behind the production of each one of them.  I struggle with this and I invite others to come alongside me in this struggle.  May we set aside some of our comforts for the sake of representing the love and provision of Jesus to all humanity.

Some creative ways to consume with integrity this Christmas:

  • Buy from fair trade distributors like Trade as One
  • Pass up buying another product and buy something practical for someone who desperately needs it
  • Donate to that missionary or non-profit that has been on your heart
  • Shop at second hand stores. (Ever heard of up-cycling?  Check it out)
  • Give the gift of an experience rather than a product

More ideas?  Please pass them along in the comments!

The Science of Storytelling and Listening

This article was originally posted on Fuller Youth Institute’s website.  For full list of statistic sources, click here. 

Although I’ve spent one semester as a seventh and eighth grade science teacher, I don’t claim to be a scientist.

In fact, in high school and college, it was the subject I avoided the most.  Years later, I started to take seriously my role as a communicator and discovered the significance of science in relation to my understanding of how best to engage listeners with the Story of God.

It turns out that learning more about the science of listening can actually change the way you and I teach kids in our ministries.

Neurologically-Friendly Teaching

Listening is central to the growth and development of everyone who can hear. Studies show that 53% of class time for a U.S. college student is spent listening.1  For the same demographic, nearly 12 hours out of a 24-hour day are spent in some form of listening activity.2  The often unspoken reality is that listening does not necessarily constitute learning, content retention or a willingness to believe information.  In contrast, some studies show that we remember a mere 25% of the content we are presented.3

Why so little? Students tend to listen for facts, but get easily distracted.  Their listening is sidetracked by noise, daydreaming, or chasing another topic altogether.  And often, students listen without being interested in the subject at hand in the first place.4

With all this being said, the task of an effective communicator is not to be taken lightly.  Some argue that offering convincing statistics engages the listener and creates lasting impact, but experts also tell us that people quickly dismiss statistics that are inconsistent with their beliefs.5

On the other hand, fictional stories—which often can be processed very efficiently with minimal effort and high recall—engage a phenomenon called “suspension of disbelief,” which can lead to tangible change.6  Employing the art of storytelling, I once wrote and told a story to my teenagers whose main character, Chloe, dealt with depression, loneliness and cutting.  I shared it over the course of a few weeks at our mid-week gathering, but I could see that one teenager was especially impacted.  During my second week of telling the story, this teenager stood up and quickly walked out of the room in distress.  One of our youth workers followed close behind and found out that this teenager also struggled with cutting and could no longer walk alone in the struggle.

This student suspended disbelief and chose to be engaged by story. This ancient form of storytelling—Jewish Agada (Rabbinical Storytelling)—had become so real to her that she began wrestling with some of the biggest issues she’d ever faced in her young life. She heard Chloe’s story and realized that it was her story.  For this reason, some in the medical field have implemented storytelling as a mode of healthcare communication, bringing attention to issues ranging from suicide to AIDS prevention.

Communication expert Dr. Brian Leggett says, “A story is a narrative which actively engages the listener’s sense-making faculties. It helps the listener to make sense of what is being said and to make the right associations. It helps the listener to think widely by stimulating his or her imagination.”7

We’ve discovered that storytelling can break down walls of cynicism and mental distraction and lead listeners toward engagement. The art, then, is in assimilating fiction into belief. In order to practice that art of assimilation, we need to create intentional dialog and discussion.

Less Preaching, More Conversation

As youth workers who are passionate about inviting our students into the Story of God, it is important that we follow in the footsteps of our Rabbi, Jesus.  Jesus was the master storyteller, and true to Rabbinic tradition, one-third of his teaching was done through the art of storytelling.  Similar to Jesus’ parables, modern day storytelling is a method that might provoke more questions than answers. The story becomes a conversation starter, not a conversation finisher. This isn’t always true, of course. As youth listen and engage in the story, they can process some of the answers because the story meets every teenager in a different spot of their faith experience.

Where the story is the conversation starter, the follow-up discussion and dialogue is the conversation continuer. (I would say “finisher,” but most often that’s not the case.) It’s paramount that we communicators open up times of honest dialogue and questioning. Just like a rousing conversation after a good movie, most of the impact and application will occur after we tell the story. It’s like spending a large amount of time setting the table and displaying a beautiful meal, and now it’s time to call our guests to sit around the table and take it all in. We communicators become not simply the primary medium for communication but hosts of a feast of questions and conversation.

Does this mean we simply offer up our opinions and spiritual insights through our stories and then let them all be cast out into a sea of subjectivity? Absolutely not. It’s very important that we keep the group centered on the topic while still leaving room for honest conversation and questions.8

However, we must keep in mind that our teenagers are told conflicting stories and “truths” all the time, whether they’re at school, on the sports field, at home, or in some form of relationship. Let’s allow our teaching to give way to guided, thoughtful, and Spirit-led conversation in the hopes of inspiring them to begin the process of entering into a living, active, and very real relationship with Jesus.

If Only I Had a Guitar in My Hands

I have a friend named Robbie. He’s been a part of our high school community for the last three years or so. For the most part, he attends our gatherings and is well liked and respected by his peers and adult leaders.

Robbie is a guitar freak. He plays it, listens to others play it, and flat-out lives it. And I have no doubt that he’d be proud of that description. He has the long curly locks of most “good” rockers, a penchant for tie-dyed shirts, and an endless supply of Converse shoes. When I ask Robbie what his favorite activity is at any given point in the day, he puts his index finger over his closed mouth and ponders his response. Fitting to his character, he responds, “I would have to say either listening to guitar riffs of my favorite artists on CD or playing my guitar without distraction.” This kid would eat his guitar if such a feat wouldn’t scratch it.

Robbie also is a very intellectual and thoughtful student of the Christian life. He’s not afraid to ask hard questions, and he’s a model to many regarding how to live a life of honest transparency and openness to accountability. I respect him very much. That said, Robbie has a hard time focusing during any kind of teaching because he self-admittedly drifts off into guitar world within about two minutes of the start of the talk. He recently told me (during a time when I was not teaching through story, incidentally) that he was really interested in what I had to say and would like to know more. But he just couldn’t pull himself away from pondering how to “play that A-minor with a harmonic that the Allman Brothers nail every time” in one of his favorite two hundred songs of theirs. (I felt so affirmed and self-assured in regard to my teaching abilities after hearing that—defeated by an A-minor with a harmonic. Awesome!)

As a result, while Robbie would often come to our weekly gatherings on Thursday nights, during the talk he’d either play his guitar (outside) or do his best to listen for at least a few minutes.

Then we started a new story.

I don’t remember the topic exactly, but there was something about it that caught Robbie’s attention. And not the two-minute span I was used to seeing, but twenty minutes of attention followed by thirty minutes of dialogue attention. At this point I began wrestling with some of the ideas articulated above. Scientifically, what was it about storytelling that allowed an otherwise hard-to-capture mind like Robbie’s to actively participate in what I was saying? There had to be something to it.

And apparently there is.

I’m not proposing you scratch all your future teaching and permanently teach through story.  I don’t!  But teaching through the art of storytelling is a great communication tool to add to our communication toolbox as we seek to engage and invite our teenagers into the dynamic Story of God.

Action Points

 

  • Consider teaching your next topic series through story (i.e. sex & dating, forgiveness, etc…)
  • Instead of preparing a three point propositional teaching, begin to build an outline of your story as a modern day parable, while taking into close consideration your audience and context.  As a 1st century Rabbi in the Roman Empire, Jesus was exceptional at this.
  • Create characters, a setting and plot that integrate Scripture and illuminates your topic.  Try to develop characters and setting that your teenagers can relate to and have fun with it!
  • Prepare follow-up discussion questions that unpack your story, which ground it in the everyday realities of your teenagers.
  • Tell your story with confidence and conviction!  You can tell your whole story in one night or you can tell it over the course of a few weeks and build momentum by ending each session on a cliffhanger.  Your teenagers will hardly be able to wait to come back and hear the rest of the story!
  • Follow up with group conversation, questions and dialog that allow the main points of your story to take root in the hearts and minds of your teenagers.

Tragic Realities in the Midst of Hope

This has been a strange week in the international life of NieuCommunities.  Within days of each other, we had two stirring incidents take place on opposite sides of the world.

One of our sites is in Pretoria, South Africa.  While developing young Church leaders, our team has been diving deep into the local context, which is still plagued with the after effects of years of violent racism in the wake of Apartheid.  Lines have been drawn between rich and poor, white and black, etc…

This past week, one of the families on staff was hassled and robbed, which led to the draining of bank accounts.  Another one of our staff had his home broken into for the second time.

Right here in Golden Hill, one of the families (a couple with three young daughters) on staff hit the floor as they heard a flurry of gunshots ringing around their house.  Soon there were cops at their house picking up dozens of bullet casings in their backyard.  The cops said, “That’s what happens when you live in the ghetto.” 

None of our NieuCommunities’ members feel as though we live in the “ghetto.”  This is our home and we are constantly in awe of what God is doing to renew and restore areas that were once broken.  We don’t walk the streets in fear, but with hopeful conviction that this is exactly where Jesus would want us to be.  I don’t see this as ignorance, I see this faithfulness.  

With all the hope of restoration, this week has been a tragic reminder of the pain and destruction that still remains all around us.  There are social, economic, political and spiritual realities that are oppressive and lead to what we have recently experienced. 

All that being said, our teams need prayer for safety, courage and trust that we are still living the story God has called each one of us into.  In fact, in these events, we must choose to be reminded that these are the very reasons we live and submerge into place/lives that are often forgotten by the rest of society. 

Lord, may your presence and peace reign in the midst of a Creation groaning for your Shalom. 

When Dreams Meet Reality: Life in Intentional Community

After years of being a youth pastor, I remember the time I came home from yet another event that required endless administration, energy and resources and asked myself, “Is this what it means to be the Church?  And if so, there have to be better ways to embody the supposed life-giving, relational aspects of Jesus discipleship.”

For me, church had become a place that I drove to and “performed,” not a living organism that involved sharing daily life with fellow disciples seeking participation in the Mission of God.  Instead of giving life, it drained me of life.  I felt disconnected, depressed and alone.

The problem was that I had gotten really good at this version of church.  In fact, it was less about the structure I happened to be part of and more about my unwillingness to step faithfully into a life that called me to embody the Church every moment of everyday.  When I was finally willing, I didn’t even know what it looked like to live out the Church in this way.  It was a paradigm I not only hadn’t mastered, but didn’t know existed.

Despite it all, I knew I was called to something more.  Something that required all of me, everyday.  Something that was shared with fellow pilgrims living in the way of Jesus as Kingdom representatives in our local contexts and neighborhoods.  The Good News was not simply to be preached through spoken word, but lived out in the everyday realities of life.  And it could no longer be primarily about building my personal reputation, but about building a communal reputation through a leadership structure that invited all into participation.

The good news is that the Church doesn’t only take one form and I was not the only one with a yearning for a more holistic embodiment of God’s community.  In fact, there are communities sprouting all over the globe that are taking seriously their communal vocation of living out the Church in their daily, local contexts.  They live where they serve and serve where they live.  They don’t accumulate massive numbers of people or physical resources, but they multiply through the continual development and sending of Apostolic leaders.

Life. Church. Faith. Community. Discipleship. Service.  Suddenly integrated into something whole.  Something beautiful that challenges, inspires and calls all of life into submission to the reign of Jesus.

My wife, daughter and I are now part of an intentional community of missional leaders who are seeking to embody the Church in fresh, yet ancient ways.  As a community of faith, each year we make a covenant commitment to commune with God, open ourselves to rich community and submerge deep into our local contexts.  It is not simply a dream or a theory, it is a daily reality.

Neighbors coming out to share a meal in the park.  The smell of fresh produce as the community walks the streets of our local farmers market.  The family that invites us into their home and says, “There is something different about you, and it is really good.”  The new life of three newborn babies.  Reading the Scriptures with the man living in a backstreet alley.  Walking alongside persecuted refugees as they integrate into a new culture.  Sending leaders across the globe to use their gifts to advance the Kingdom.  

 This is the life God’s community was created for and it is the life we can all choose to live.  May we be a people who daily come to life as we more faithfully step into our vocation as participants on God’s Mission.  May we step into this Mission rooted in faith communities that challenge, inspire and embody the dream God has for all humanity.

Note: This blog was originally posted as an article on theOOZE website and I will unpacking this much more in my workshop entitled “Thin Places: Creating and Practicing Missional Community” at Soularize 2011 – October 18-20 in San Diego, CA.